Getting in shape can be difficult, and the most important thing you need, as we talked about last week is consistency. Here’s the email as a reminder.
But sometimes that’s not so easy to master on your own!
Today, I wanted to tell you about the best decision I made for my health, to show you how much easier it is not to do things alone, and that everyone needs to ask for help at some point!
I’d cleaned up my nutrition and had seen great results from that, the next thing to work on to continue seeing results was my workouts.
I’m sure you know the pattern – the week starts, and you feel excited about all the changes you’re going to make! Your first day goes well, and you get into bed feeling smug and happy with yourself that you’ve lasted all day.
The next day, you miss your workout, or you eat something off plan, and that’s that. Motivation has officially left the building and you procrastinate another week away.
It didn’t matter what I told myself at the beginning of each week, the rewards I planned for each goal I reached, or how badly I wanted THAT body, I couldn’t do it by myself. And, trust me, I tried for a long time! I’m a stubborn one!
Finally, I asked a friend of mine for help. He’s a personal trainer, and I loved that he never judged me or tried to give me advice unless I asked for it. He was a friend first and foremost, but there to help if and when I wanted it.
I have to admit, I was scared to have him train me. Doing it by myself, it was easy for me to convince myself that I was doing ok, and missing most of my workouts each week was fine!
Now that I had a trainer, there was no hiding. I had to do the work, or admit to him that I was slacking. And, let’s be honest, who feels good about telling someone they’re not working hard enough?!
This was exactly what I needed! I wasn’t able to motivate myself yet, for whatever reason, so having someone keep me accountable, and not wanting to waste his time by slacking, was the only way to get the ball rolling.
To me, a coach or trainer is someone who holds you accountable and helps you get that initial momentum going until you are able to motivate yourself and keep that consistency going.
They’re not there as a safety blanket or a crutch that you come to rely on to get anything done, and they’re not someone to blame when you don’t work hard enough to see results.
When I coach people, I am a tool for them to kickstart their weight loss, get into a routine, and develop healthier habits until they are able to do all that for themselves.
I learn what holds them back, and I help them overcome that obstacle until it’s no longer a problem for them.
I guess it’s sort of like being a teacher, or even a parent. You don’t want to be someone’s safety blanket, you don’t want someone to become dependent on you – that doesn’t benefit them in the long run.
Instead, you want to equip them with everything they need to be able to do what you teach them on their own.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with struggling to motivate yourself, or stay consistent. It’s one of the biggest things people struggle with, and the main reason that so many people don’t reach their goal weight, or maintain weight loss.
Getting in shape takes work and commitment, which many people are not willing to give.
But, it’s a lot easier to do when you have someone on your side, helping you over the hurdles and cheering you on all the way!
Getting a trainer was the best thing I ever did for my health! I now workout 4-5 times per week, and it’s become second nature to me.
I don’t dread going to the gym any more, my body is able to recover from the workouts faster and, honestly, it feels easy and enjoyable now!
I only have one session a week with my trainer now, on a Tuesday, so it sets me up for the week and helps me keep that momentum going.
If I know I’m going to struggle one week, e.g. if I have family/friends staying or I’m not feeling 100%, I ask my trainer for help, and he holds me accountable until my routine is back to normal and I don’t need the extra help any more.
The trick is to ask for help when you need it.
We all need help at some point and, the people who succeed at getting where they want to be, are the ones who recognise that and ask for it!
If you’re in that place now, don’t be scared to ask for help. Even if you don’t get a coach or trainer, ask a friend for help. Text them when you finish at the gym, or send them your food diary in the evening. Ask them to remind you not to have dessert when you go out for dinner with them, or ask them to share one with you.
Most people are happy to help their friend stay on track!
And, if you’d like to find out more about the 1-1 coaching we offer here at Aneu, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org and we’d be happy to help 🙂